NLP can be used in so many different ways, especially when you start taking techniques out of the box. I wanted to write this article, inspired by the holidays celebrated world-wide, and most importantly Thanksgiving.
Many of the techniques we learn in NLP training are about creating resourceful states. Most Practitioners tend to think first about resourceful states such as confidence, calmness, or excitement. You may think, what about happiness? I tend to not anchor or do much NLP work specific to happiness, as happiness is a vague concept. I would much rather take resourceful states and exercises that together build happiness. Much like you do a circle of excellence, building different resourceful states. What few people consider to work into their NLP practice is gratitude. While this may be as broad of a concept as happiness, it is also a part of happiness. To wake up, look around, and appreciate what is there.
Here are several tips that anyone who has taken a quality NLP Practitioner or NLP Master Practitioner training can understand:
1. Consider building a circle of gratitude instead of excellence. Using different contexts of gratitude.
2. Anchor several elements on the past timeline in moments where the client experienced gratitude.
3. Future pace into gratitude.
4. Stepping into the second (other), fourth (group), fifth (source) perceptual position of NLP, and let the client observe themselves from those positions where it comes to gratitude. People they have helped, children they have raised, significant others, the company or family as a whole, a greater power.
5. After eliciting values (NLP Master Practitioner technique), have a discussion with the client about how these relate to happiness. How when you lead a life true to your values, that this can be met in gratitude.
6. Map across from a lack of focus on gratitude, to gratitude.
7. Adjust the submodalities to increase gratitude.
8. Meta model the client gratitude focused.
9. Milton model the client focusing on gratitude.
10. Goal set (well formed outcomes) into creating a life in gratitude. This can often be reached through setting up a life where the client starts sharing their abilities, or volunteering, etc.
11. Associate into the gratitude.
12. Do core change work from the lack of focus on gratitude, to the focus on gratitude.
13. Elicit states of gratitude.
14. Give your client tasks in which they start to feel gratitude.
15. Instead of focusing on satisfaction when doing a wheel of life, start focusing on all those areas and how they can be grateful.
Below is a series of videos that you could easily take out of the box, and re-work, for the client to start focusing on gratitude. These are part of NLP training videos made for my former students.
NLP circle of excellence:
How to Use NLP to improve any skill: