More on habits from team Global NLP Training! Last week we covered more in-depth on how the “habit loop” works.
This week we are going to delve more into the world of NLP training.
Step 1: Understanding the Cue
It is of crucial importance to understand the cue. You could use the NLP Meta Model questions. For those of you who have not taken NLP training, here are a few questions that could apply here:
- What specifically is the cue?
- How do you know that the very start of the cue is? Is there something you think, feel, believe?
- Or is it something that you see, hear and feel?
- Or did someone else do something?
- What specifically happened in your environment?
What may help is to associate, stepping into yourself before you have any inkling of the habit or the cue. Imagine that moment, what you saw, heard, and felt. Trace the steps as if you are re-living the moment.
Once you have identified the cue, we have conscious awareness. Conscious awareness is key as we learn in NLP training. Maybe you want to spend some time reflecting on this and come up with ideas for new routines, and how they must produce rewards.
Step 2: Figure out the Reward & the Positive Intent
What specifically is the reward?
Logically think as to what the reward could be.
Let’s check your intuition or your unconscious mind:
- Close your eyes.
- Ask your unconscious mind a question, your intuition, your gut, your sense. This is not about thinking and coming up with a perfect answer. This is what your intuition answers, it doesn’t need to make any logical sense. It may not even answer in a word, but in a feeling, a sense, a knowing, an image even.
- What is the positive intent motivating this routine?
Step 3: The New Routine Must Meet the Positive Intent & Reward
If you know what new routine you desire:
Associate into the cue, and imagine what you would see, hear, and feel. Keep rolling this movie, notice what you will see, hear, and feel doing this new routine.
Does it meet your positive intent? And is there a reward?
If not, you really need to figure out another routine, or the routine you have a mind could benefit either the same positive intent or reward. It would be best if you met the positive intent in some way. For those of you who have taken NLP Training I would explore what NLP techniques you could use. If you haven’t, you may want to seek a coach. You can contact us to find one in your area.
If you don’t know the new routine you desire:
Associate into the reward: what do you see, hear, and feel? What specifically could you be doing right before? Same as above, think of your NLP training or consult a coach if you can’t come up with the answer.
Step 4: Set a Goal to Master the New Routine
Use the well-formed outcome process you have learned, or use your own methodology for goal setting.
Step 5: Associate into the Reward
Imagine what you will see, hear, and feel when you get the reward as often as you can. In NLP training, we called this future pacing.
Everything is Learning!
Understand that learning a new habit travels from:
Unconscious incompetence, to conscious incompetence, to conscious competence, and finally to unconscious competence.
The old habit already has mastery and has traveled this process. It wants to take over, it is the auto-pilot of unconscious incompetence. So instead of giving up when this does happen, consider the face that you are learning. The thing is though, once you learn how to make a new habit and then forget, it is easier and faster to re-learn the new habit. Now it is just a matter of practicing and practicing some more. Rinse and repeat. Conditioning, re-conditioning and anchoring the habits you’d like to have.