The first fast phobia cure outside of a training room is always the most scary one, for the NLP Practitioner or coach. Perhaps also for the client.
Global NLP Training takes an active approach following up with past students over Facebook, both via the Global NLP Training Fan Page, as well as our trainers connecting to students from their personal pages. Incredibly helpful tool, to answer questions, and support students.
Today I noticed a status update from a very excited student, doing her first fast phobia cure outside of the class room, less than 4 weeks after her training.
Let me introduce you to Barbara, Language Coach. I (Nikkie) wanted to leave her comments unedited, so I didn’t, minus some typo’s.
Global NLP Training: Hi Barbara, it was great to receive your news. So you just completed your first fast phobia cure. Congratulations! How do you feel?
Barbara: I’m overwhelmed. I can’t even find the right words … I feel great! And somehow relieved that I managed to get through it!
Global NLP Training: How does your client feel?
Barbara: Happy! She said she felt relieved and light. She couldn’t stop smiling. And hugged me A LOT!
Global NLP Training: Do you know what the phobia was, or did you do the technique without knowing?
Barbara: I didn’t know what it was. And it was okay. I really felt like I didn’t have to know. She told me afterwards though.
Global NLP Training: Doing this outside a training environment, did you feel confident? Was it hard to do?
Barbara: I was a little bit nervous about it, because I felt like having my NLP training manual on my lap, which wouldn’t be appropriate even though I really wanted it to be there as a back-up. But since I didn’t want to seem insecure about what I was doing, I just told myself that I knew it all and that I could do it without the manual. So I did.
Global NLP Training: How long did it take? Please don’t say an hour.
Barbara: An hour and a half 😉 LOL. No … it took no more than 15 minutes.
Global NLP Training: How did the client experience the process itself?
Barbara: She went through the first “rewind of the movie” too slow, even though I had given her the instructions very clearly (with the sound and so on), therefore it seemed to be a little painful for her. So I had to go thru the instructions again and clarified that it should only take a second to rewind the movie. When she did it again, I could see from the movement of her eyes that she went thru it a lot faster and she was fine this time. Her only comment in the end was “wow”.
Global: Was it a text book fast phobia cure, or did you have to be creative to get the job done?
Barbara: I think it was a text book fast phobia cure … I didn’t have to change anything. It worked just fine
Global NLP Training: What did you do to prepare? Read the manual, put yourself in a good state of confidence? Did you do NLP on yourself before you did it? Or did you just go for it.
Barbara: I didn’t look at the manual beforehand – for a lack of time. That’s why I was a little nervous when she said she wanted to do the “fast-phobia-cure”. I took some time to focus before I started, went thru the entire process in my head once, took a few deep breaths with her and then did it. (Oh and I’d stepped into my circle of excellence in the morning already, so I felt like I was still in it)
Global NLP Training: Was it easy to use good verbal and non-verbal communication patterns? I mean you took the course in English, which is not your first language.
Barbara: It was less difficult than I thought. This could be, because I’ve been reading a NLP book in German the past few days to find out if the communication patterns just translate or if I really had to learn the “German patterns”, so I felt confident about it. I do have difficulties to identify the representational systems and predicates in the language though. That’s a little tricky in German, but it’s doable.
Global NLP Training: Do you feel there are areas you could improve on for the next one?
Barbara: There is always room for improvement! I always say. Maybe not so much when it comes to “fast-phobia-cure”, because I really think I nailed that today 😉 … I realized that I do need some more tools when my client started talking about events from her past that somehow still have an effect on the present. So I guess I really have to take that Master Practitioner class, don’t I?!
Global NLP Training: What would you advise a new Global NLP Training graduate for their first fast phobia cure outside of the class room?
Barbara: Make sure that there are no budgies in the room! That can be very irritating … well, it was for me. Apart from that: keep a wary eye on your client and trust yourself. Your unconscious mind will know what to do!
Global NLP Training: In class did your partner have a phobia? Or did you work on a fear? Or were you unlucky and get a fearless client.
Barbara: I got THE MOST fearless student in our entire group … However (!) I knew I would get my chance some day!
Global NLP Training: Did you have a phobia? If yes, how is that going?
Barbara: I was THE other fearless student in our group.
Global NLP Training: When I did the fast phobia demo, it was intense, yet successful. Your class mate not only had a phobia, it was a trauma all wrapped in to one. Since his early childhood. What did you think when you saw the demo?
Barbara: I thought “THIS IS BIG. I want to do that too!” And then I thought: “WOW THAT’S BIG. Could I actually do that?!” And then I thought “great! I know a few people with a phobia … I’ll try and see myself”
Global NLP Training: How do you think about it now?
Barbara: I need to call my other “victims” – I want to do that again!!! And I’m still impressed with what you did for my class mate! It’s such a powerful tool.
Global NLP Training: Did you think it was hard to learn the fast phobia cure? Or did you feel that the demo, the explanation, and the class room practice was enough?
Barbara: I’ve always trusted the process. I never had the feeling I needed more input. And Practice is an important part of the learning process too!
Global NLP Training: Anything else that you would like to say to the readers?
Barbara: (To her fellow class mates) Each one of you has learned so much during our training – it would be such a pity if you let that knowledge and the skills slip away with time. It’s so important that you start using it ASAP! Don’t wait too long. … this is something that I tell my students over and over again. It’s simple, but true: “Use it or lose it.”
It doesn’t mean you’ll forget everything, but it gets harder to remember. So maybe you want to make it your intention to use the “fast-phobia-cure” or any other NLP-technique within the next two weeks – or not. I miss you guys!
Global NLP Training: That’s it. You are AWESOME. I am so proud of you. On to your next Fast Phobia Cure I hope.
Congrats Barbara! That all sounds awesome! 🙂
Always great to see other Global NLP Training students making an impact in lives out there! Way to go Barbara…
Spencer
That’s wonderful Barbara! AND I miss you too!!! =)
Barbara! You are an amazing and wonderful coach! Congratulations to you; keep up the great work, I am so incredibly proud of you, and I wish you all the best!
Good for you, Barbara! And you are so right about practising as soon as possible after the course. I did the training with Nikkie in Amsterdam in May and have been using it whenever I can with my coaching clients…even over the phone and by Skype! I’m also putting a tick in the manual next to each technique I’ve practiced and with whom so I can go back and review notes on what I did, what worked well, what I might have done differently, etc. It also helps me to see which patterns I’m turning to more than others. Although this somewhat makes me question if I’m doing certain patterns because they’re the most appropriate ones or because I feel most comfortable with them…it’s good to check up on myself and make sure I keep stretching myself just a little 🙂 Keep up the great work!
That’s awesome, Barbara. That’s very inspirational. Keep it up.
You guys are awesome for supporting each other. That’s an awesome tip Sarah, I am going to steal it and tell my students from now on. 🙂
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