How do you give a great speech? People ask me this all the time in NLP Practitioner training. I learned a great deal from giving speeches at parties, weddings and funerals. But where I would say I learned the most, is from my NLP training students who give a speech at the end of class or write metaphors for other students.
Here are my 10 NLP tips for giving a great speech. This does assume that you know something about NLP or have completed NLP Practitioner training.
1. What is the first word that pops into your mind?
The power of the unconscious mind is amazing, I tend to center my speeches around the first word that pops into my mind about a person or the context I am giving the speech for.
2. The unconscious mind and your feelings rule!
Now whatever word or feelings pops into my conscious mind from my unconscious, I roll with it. Sometimes, the word “logically” makes no sense, but when I build my speech around it, it always does. It seems to be perfect!
3. Speak from the heart
I think speaking from the heart is always felt. We write metaphors as part of NLP training all the time, and the best ones are the ones that aren’t written to impress. They are written to make someone feel good!
4. Stop polishing
If you are writing your speech, be careful of editing. Often it takes away from the feeling, and it becomes mechanical. Overthinking is detrimental to a good speech.
5. Visual, auditory, kinesthetic, olfactory and gustatory words!
Yes, 4-tupling as we call it in NLP Practitioner training. Make sure that you create a rich sensory based experience in any story telling you do. What did you feel, hear, see, taste, smell? Good story tellers utilize this technique.
6. NLP Perceptual positions
In giving your speech, what is your intended result? How would your speech be viewed not just from your perspective? But how about the perspective of the person you are writing the speech for? And the audience? And anyone who may read your speech after giving it?
7. Step into a resourceful state
The most important thing is that while giving your speech, you are in a resourceful state. In NLP Practitioner training you learned several ways to do this, even fixing a phobia for public speaking!
8. Using the right words
Use your own words, but also step into the map of the audience and the person you are writing the speech for. The meaning of your communication is the response that you get, as we say in NLP terms. This means you need to communicate to someone in their map of the world. Use words that your audience would use.
9. Be careful with your NLP Milton Model
Yes, using the Milton model is a great idea. But be careful, you want to use the right amount. The point is to keep people alert enough, so be sure to add in some meta model type specifics. A sleeping audience may put a snooze on the entire event.
10. Decide to have fun!
Step into a place of fun before you give a speech. Or if it is for a funeral, step into a spot of giving the other person meaning, or of offering compassion for the family.
There are many other tools you could use. What NLP Practitioner tools would you use?