Processes of communication: though content may be different all over the world, the process is the same. Globally we speak different languages, they way we speak about different topics differ. Some topics in some countries can not even be discussed freely. The content of the things we say and in what situation may be different from one country to the other. Even body language and gestures may be different.

But people would wide do run similar processes for communication. The way the software of your brain uses language and communication. Below you will find a list of processes of communication, it is not meant to be extensive list, but it does give some of the communication patterns that people learn more about in their NLP practitioner and master practitioner training.

Talking vs. silence

Perception vs. oblivion

Listening vs. not paying attention or distraction

Rapport vs. distrust and mismatching.

Creating options vs. one way of doing things

humor vs. being serious 

Pacing vs. going the opposite way/mismatching

Leading vs. forcing a certain way/pushing

Dovetailing outcomes vs. Manipulation

Moving toward outcomes vs. moving away from them, frustrating the right outcome.

Pattern interruption vs. keep running hte same program

creativity vs. automatic thought patterns

sensory acuity vs. being unaware (and uninformed.)

Congruence vs. incongruence.

Feedback vs. failure

Flexibility vs. rigidity.

Calibration vs. non responsiveness

Elicitating outcomes vs tunnel vision

Methaphor vs direct communication

Paying close attention to communication processes will give you a clear advantage in communicating with others. You could use a specific process to achieve certain outcomes in the conversation you are having. Being flexible in being able to use different communication processes is where good communicators are separated from the people whom are not good communicators yet.

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