In NLP a lie is defined as anything that can’t be proven as the ultimate truth.  By that definition, that doesn’t leave much out of the realm of a possible lie.  Does that mean that everybody lies?  Certainly not everyone…well at least not on purpose.  When Richard Bandler and John Grinder asked all of those years ago for their students to “just accept our lies for the time being”, what they were actually asking was for those students to enter into their realm of experience for a short time to shift their perceptual position.When undertaking the task of learning NLP, you will probably first be asked to take on a group of beliefs neatly packaged as the NLP Presuppositions.  These presuppositions are statements about the arena of human experience and understanding the need for flexibility of thought as well as shifting the student more into the position of involvement in the process of human experience and not just an observer of that experience as if life happens as something entirely separate from the person himself. 

What one can take from that statement of accepting what they had to say as lies is more a statement of questioning what was brought to the classes as each individual came, and to challenge the “conventions” of human behavior as it was previously prescribed to us.  Remember that even today, traditional behavioral science studies human behavior in much the same way and under the same scientific conditions as one would study astrophysics, as an element apart from that phenomenon.  As human beings however, we are not separate from general human experience, even the experience of other people. 

Once again, when studying NLP, or any subject for that matter, challenge convention!  Expand your experience!  Whether it’s NLP for Business Coaching, NLP for Life Coaching or NLP for Therapy, challenge, expand, GROW!  Are NLP presuppositions always correct?  Probably not.  Can we find exceptions to all of these rules?  Probably so.  Can we use those NLP presuppositions and other NLP techniques and patterns to greatly expand our flexibility as a human being fully involved in human experience and use those NLP tools to greatly expand on our success and happiness in life?  Defiantly yes.  Remember while learning, challenge, think, grow, expand your options and most of all, learn how to use those little white lies for your own benefit and the benefit of all of humanity

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